Heal your Attachment style.

Attachment + Relationships

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Are your relationships feeling imbalanced and like something isn’t right?

Your attachment style plays a big part in how you show up in relationships.

I work with individual adult clients to identify their primary attachment style, observe their patterns in relationships and work towards creating new healthier patterns that can create more relational fulfillment.

Did you know that your attachment style began forming before you were even able to speak? In early life, we primarily process the world through body sensations and emotions. Long before we had words, we learned how to connect with others—especially our primary caregivers—through what we felt and experienced. These early interactions played a key role in shaping how we relate to others today. Your attachment style may also have been influenced by relationships with peers, teachers, coaches, your cultural background, faith upbringing, and even your earliest romantic partners.

There are four primary attachment styles: secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), and disorganized (fearful-avoidant). Understanding your attachment style is not about placing blame or judging those who raised or influenced you—it’s about gaining clarity. The goal is to realistically identify what did and did not happen during your formative years so you can understand how those experiences may be influencing your current relationships and emotional responses.

When we have blind spots, it can feel impossible to move beyond the past. But once you can clearly see where certain patterns began, you're empowered to create new ways of engaging with others. In therapy, we use tools and psychoeducation to help you recognize these patterns, build healthier relational dynamics, and develop effective communication skills.

Learning your attachment style and intentionally developing relational tools will not only help you feel more connected to others—it will also help you stay grounded in yourself and honor your emotional needs with clarity and confidence.

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Sound like you?

Struggling with saying no and setting healthy boundaries

Tired of feeling lonely even when you’re with people

Ready to stop appeasing others at the sacrifice of yourself

Wishing you could feel seen, known and connected

Here’s what we’ll do together

Therapy can help you unlock your authentic self to connect with others.

If fear and pain from the past did not exist, how do you think you might show up in life? Are you in touch with the wisest version of yourself? Asking yourself these questions, may help reveal the truest version of who you are deep inside.

Maybe you don’t see yourself correctly. The lense you may have of yourself could be developed partially from hurt, betrayal, abuse, trauma, neglect or loss.

Are you ready to correct your lense of yourself? When you discover your strengths, areas of growth, and values you can start to make decisions that are more aligned with who you are deep down and the future that you want.

Let’s pull back the mask over your heart that has been trying to protect you from pain and hurt. Let’s discover what hurt you in the first place, and care for and nurture those places inside. There may be parts of yourself that you have pushed down or abandoned to try to protect yourself and those around you. Those parts of you may be showing up in unhelpful ways in your current life. Maybe you cope with pain and hurt, by trying to gain control through micro-managing others, appeasing everyone around you, using substances in an unhealthy way, eating disordered behaviors, shutting down into a depressed state of mind or having obsessive thoughts and feelings about things that are outside of your control.

At the end of the day, I want you to know:

When you start healing your attachment style, you can start to heal your relationship with yourself and find meaningful and lasting relationships with others.

What we’ll work on

Imagine a life where…

  • Your relationships feel connected in an authentic way

  • You stop abandoning yourself and learn to care for yourself

  • You’re able to tolerate your own emotional distress when triggered in relationships

  • You’re able to communicate effectively so that you can feel seen, heard and known

  • You’re able to let go and detach from what is outside your control

Change is possible.

Change is possible.

Questions?

FAQs

  • I received my training in attachment and relationship therapy at a group counseling center in Austin, TX where I learned and implemented their relational care model. Through this training, I learned skills including neuroscience within attachment, attunement, communication tools, and emotional regulation. Boundaries are also an important part of keeping attachments safe, and I have gleaned a lot from Cloud and Townsend’s work. Curt Thompson has also been an influence in my training around attachment.

  • This will depend on a number of factors including (but not limited to) how much relational trauma you have in your past, your level of motivation, and any safe attachments you have in your life currently.

  • Your level of hope may be an insight into your relational history. We may need to identify past hurts, and work towards building safe relational connections in the present so that you can start to believe that change is possible for you!

  • I currently work with individual adult clients only. While I do not offer couples or family counseling, I specialize in helping individuals explore their attachment style, relationship patterns, and the impact of past experiences on current connections. Through our work together, I incorporate tools, psychoeducation, and practical strategies to help you develop healthier relational patterns and more effective communication skills. This process can lead to increased self-awareness, emotional healing, and more secure, fulfilling relationships.